If there’s a narcissist in your life, you likely feel frustrated, confused, manipulated, and tired of their constant tricks.

I have some tips to help you deal with a narcissist. These tips can make your relationship with them easier, whether they are a parent, friend, co-worker, partner, or sibling.

Okay, let’s look at the five tips!

Tip one: Understand they likely won’t change. 

This is crucial. In my experience observing and helping people with boundaries, difficult relationships, and anxiety for a short while, many friends struggle with this concept. 

Someone once shared a dating tip: picture “as is” on your date’s forehead. 

It resonated with me, highlighting the importance of accepting others as they are. This is particularly vital with narcissists. Their personality traits are deeply ingrained and hard to change.

Tip number two: Don’t take things personally. 

A narcissist will say nice things when it benefits them but also say mean things to control you. 

Their behavior isn’t about you. Whether they’re being nice or mean, don’t let it get to you. 

Narcissists often put their own problems on others and might even call you a narcissist to throw you off. 

They’re just trying to control you, not reflect your true value. So, don’t take it personally.

Tip number three: Look after yourself. 

When dealing with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, it’s important to set boundaries to keep yourself safe. 

These boundaries won’t necessarily change how they behave, but they can shield you emotionally, physically, legally, financially, and in your day-to-day life. 

Don’t count on the narcissist to recognize or honor these boundaries — they probably won’t.

Narcissists can go to extremes when it comes to boundaries. 

Recently, I supported a friend whose family member was using her credit card without permission and making unauthorized purchases. Despite her concerns, she hesitated to involve the police. Instead, she tried talking to her, but she always made excuses and avoided responsibility. 

She said she owed her money or gave other reasons, ignoring the fact that her actions were unethical and harmful. It’s tough to consider legal action against a family member, but sometimes it’s necessary for self-protection. 

Trying to make the narcissist see their mistakes is often pointless — they never think they’re wrong. 

This underscores why it’s important to accept them as they are, as they’re unlikely to change.

I hope that explanation was clear. 

Let’s take a moment to think because often we find it hard to set boundaries due to how we see ourselves. 

Sometimes we think we should always be nice and caring, while other times we may have negative thoughts about ourselves. Both of these can make it tough to set boundaries.

Tip four: Watch what they do, not what they say.

A wise friend once told me, “Watch what they do, not what they say.”It struck a chord because I knew someone who talked big but didn’t back it up. 

Narcissists are masters of talk, promising change they seldom deliver. 

If we believe their words over their actions, we’ll stay confused and stuck. So, pay attention to actions, not words. This applies to everyone, but it’s especially important with narcissists.

It’s important to remember that what you do matters more than what you say. 

Ask yourself: Am I acting in line with what I want to express? If I say I won’t tolerate certain behaviors but still put up with them, my actions send a different message. 

Recognizing this has helped me build better relationships and grasp how they work.

Tip number five: Believe in your own needs. 

Don’t expect the narcissist to understand or validate your feelings. When we’re feeling down or acting in a way that may seem unkind, like distancing ourselves, we often want to explain ourselves to the other person. 

But chances are, they won’t get it. So, it’s important to acknowledge and validate our own emotions. 

Sometimes, we need to rely on a support system that recognizes our needs and desires. We can even validate our own desires. Putting our own validation first, instead of seeking it from the narcissist, is a big step toward healing.

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Let me know what you think, I’m trying to keep it simple. God bless you, Love you all, take care!

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