They ignore the pain narcissist cause and say things like, “That’s just how they are” or “Why you cannot just forget it?”
This make everything worse for others.
You can see how bad narcissist treat you or other people, but enablers do nothing. They don’t stop narcissist or say anything. Instead, they give excuses to protect narcissist. What they don’t understand is nobody safe forever. One day, narcissist will hurt them too. Doesn’t matter if they family, friends, or partner, everybody will become target. If they don’t wake up, the abuse will never stop.
Every day, all around the world, something quiet but important is happening. As I share this to you, and you take it in, many people who supported bad behavior are now facing the problems they never thought would affect them. Things have changed, and now they have to deal with the results of their choices. It might not be the same difficult person you dealt with, but someone else is now controlling parts of their lives, proving that ignoring bad behavior eventually causes trouble.
More and more people are starting to understand how far narcissistic behavior can spread. Just one narcissist can cause big problems for families, affecting siblings, in-laws, friends, and even coworkers. It’s crazy how much harm one person can do.
When you really get what narcissism is, the signs become very clear. You see that the toxic person in your life whether it’s a family member, a partner, or even your own child has behavior that’s not going to change. This realization can be tough, but it also gives you freedom. You realize that fixing their bad behavior isn’t your job, and this lets you focus on your own healing and moving forward.
Narcissists can’t change, and their enablers will eventually face the consequences too.
So, when we deal with narcissists, one thing is clear. You can’t change how they behave, I often talk to people who realize their adult child is acting like a narcissist. It’s hard to accept, right? But all the love and care you gave them? They just couldn’t take it.
To them, it felt weak. They wanted to push limits, break rules, and do what they want just like when they were kids, and guess what? They still do that as adults. If you have an adult child acting this way, be careful! Parental alienation might come soon.
It’s a wild ride, and we all have choices in life.
Do we want to do good things, or do we want to cause trouble and not care about the results? I try to be the best person I can every day, and I hope you do too! But narcissists don’t follow the same rules as us. They are like wildfire, consuming and ruining everything in their path.
They love chaos, making fights between people, and they surround themselves with enablers, people who just go along with them. The narcissist? They only care about themselves, and the more people support them, the bigger their fragile ego gets.
Narcissists often hang out in groups.
They are usually the loudest in the room, with friends who don’t see the damage they cause or just ignore it. “Oh, that’s just how they are” they say, or “They didn’t mean it.” But let’s be honest, those days are over. The enablers think they are safe, but one day, the narcissist will turn on them too.
You might think, “But they are good friends with that group!” Sure, but deep down, the narcissist feels jealous and competitive. No one is really safe from their bad behavior, and now you see that, right? That’s why it’s super important to go no contact if you can.
Block them, delete them, and cut ties with all their flying monkeys.
If you can’t cut them off completely, try the Grey Rock method and keep your talks boring. Just say something like, “Hey, it’s a nice day! Talk to you later!” and move on.
Imagine you tell your narcissistic sibling that you are writing a book. What do you think will happen? First, they probably haven’t read a book since they were a kid. Then, they will try to outdo you by writing their own book. And if you get published? They will act like it’s nothing special.
They don’t want you to shine, they want to put out your light.
So, remember this. The enablers might think they are having fun with the narcissist, but they will be surprised one day. Their lives can go downhill just like yours did. It’s a crazy world out there, and understanding this is the first step to finding your peace!
It’s time to prioritize yourself and step away from the toxic behavior of narcissists and their enablers.
Okay, let’s think about this for a minute. It’s not just the narcissist causing problems in your life, there can be other hard things too. Maybe you have health issues, lost your job, or have family problems, so many things can make you feel heavy.
But remember, the person who laughs last doesn’t always laugh the loudest. What’s really important is to be proud of who you are and take care of yourself. Don’t let bad behavior go, it’s important to stand up for yourself. The enablers will get what they deserve, just like the narcissist.
Now, let’s talk about those enablers.
A lot of them are weak, scared, and act like bullies. They don’t know how to set boundaries. Instead, they ignore the bad things the narcissist does and make excuses, hoping things will get better tomorrow. But that’s not how life works, this just helps the narcissist keep being bad while everyone pretends it’s okay.
Think about when someone doesn’t want to clean their house, they might just push everything under the carpet instead of actually cleaning it up. This is a good way to explain a narcissistic relationship. Nothing gets talked about, nothing gets fixed, and you’re left to deal with all the mess.
In these relationships, you often end up being the one who listens, the one who always says sorry, the unpaid helper, the driver, and the one who pays the bills. The narcissist is there to control you, making you feel like you’re not good enough or that someone else is always better.
It’s a cycle that feels impossible to escape.
You might not have noticed it before, but now you’re starting to see the truth. You should be your own priority, there’s no space for toxic people in your life, especially not the narcissist, who is at the top of that list.
Take a moment to think about all the bad behavior you’ve dealt with in that relationship. Maybe you’re still facing some of it now. If there are enablers still supporting the narcissist or trying to play both sides, saying things like, “You’re also at fault” and you keep being targeted, then things aren’t going to change anytime soon.
That’s why I often say to step away from these relationships, no matter how hard it feels. The narcissist needs someone to control, someone to compete with, and someone to feel better than. This isn’t just about being strong. It’s about everything, including romantic relationships, jobs, homes, cars, money, clothes, hobbies, and more! These people can be so tiring.
When you finally see the narcissist for who they really are and realize you have to see them often, it can feel like too much. That’s why it’s super important to limit your time with them. The narcissist will only get worse over time, they won’t change. They’ll just keep pushing their bad behavior more and more.
Stop giving narcissists chances and break free from their toxic cycle for good.
Okay, imagine you have another talk with the narcissist, and, surprise, it goes wrong like it always does. What do they do next? They either blame you for everything or disappear for a few weeks or even months until things calm down.
Then, suddenly, they come back and say, “Hey, what’s up? Want to hang out?” And you’re thinking, “Wait, are we really not going to talk about that big fight we had a couple of months ago?” They act like nothing happened, saying, “What are you talking about? I’m over it. Just get over it, it’s not a big deal.” And somehow, you end up giving them another chance. That’s exactly what they want!
But it’s only when you stop giving them any chances like none at all, that they start to understand. They’ll think, “Wow, I had this person under my control for so long, and now they’ve ghosted me or cut me off. What’s going on? I can’t control them anymore, so I guess I’ll find someone else to mess with.” And that’s what will happen.
If you don’t completely cut ties or use the Grey Rock method to keep things boring, they will keep coming back. They’ll stay in your mind, trying to mess with your peace. They’ll ruin your birthdays, special moments, hobbies, work, sleep, health, and happiness.
This is what the narcissist wants.
They love making others feel small and insecure, like they are winning. But none of that is true. Deep down, narcissists are just cowards and bullies. They are empty inside, with no real feelings. They don’t care about their partners, their kids, or anyone else, only themselves. And remember the narcissist is always looking for the next shiny thing. It could be a new toy, a trip, a new friend, a pet, or even a new hobby.
This is why relationships with narcissists are so unstable.
They will keep blaming others and never take responsibility for what they do. Why? First, they don’t think they did anything wrong. Second, they blame everyone else. Third, they can’t look at themselves honestly. Fourth, they can’t grow. And lastly, they are just empty inside.
It’s like in their heads they say, “I’m important, I’m the best, I’m stronger, I have more money, I have the best stuff, people love me.” Actually, it’s a good affirmation that we should have too.
Anyway, this cycle of narcissistic abuse keeps going, and when you’re stuck in it, you feel trapped and confused. But you need to break free and get out. If not now, then when? This cycle will only get worse and more toxic. It’s really important to understand this message.
It’s about saving your life, getting out while you still can, going no contact, and realizing that these people, no matter who they are, will never change. Make sure you understand this clearly, I hope this helps you all, and thank you so much for reading my article!
