Lots of people know about external boundaries, but the ones inside you are super important too. They can actually stop you needing to set boundaries with others.
Imagine there’s this energy bubble around you, holding your thoughts and feelings. If you think others can mess with it and you have to handle that, it might weaken your inner boundaries. Then, you end up having to set boundaries with others to protect yourself.
When you understand the power of energetic boundaries and feel safe in yourself, you’ll notice a change in how people respond to you.
You won’t need to set as many external boundaries because they naturally fit in. You’ll begin to influence people and situations more effectively.
In this case, know that the person with the strongest understanding of reality influences the other.
Just observe any conversation between two people, and you’ll see one person leading the discussion, even if they’re not saying a lot. While one might talk a lot, the other stays firm with few words.
It highlights how others adjust to what we expect, matching our view of reality.
Studies show that we’re flooded with millions of information at once, but we can only process a tiny fraction. This means we pick up on things that match how we think.
For instance, if you’re often angry or insist people be on time, you’ll likely notice others being late because they reflect your feelings.
Ho’oponopono works because it’s about accepting what’s in your world. Understanding that what you see out there mirrors what’s inside you.
Saying “I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you” helps clean up that energy. It’s not about dealing with others’ emotions, which can make setting boundaries tricky.
It’s key to understand that how we see others changes based on what we believe about them.
People reflect what we think about ourselves and them. We only put up with bad feelings if we think we should. For example, you might tolerate being treated badly because it’s what you’re used to or because you think you should based on what happened before.
When it comes to energetic boundaries, focus on what you think about yourself and others. Your thoughts shape your world, so seeing others in a more positive light can improve how you interact with them.
Let’s simplify. Think of standing waves and particles. These waves carry our core beliefs, such as “I’m not worthy.” They spread from us and others pick up on them, reflecting our energy.
What we put out there affects others, bringing them into our lives to share our feelings.
When we think we’re responsible for how others feel, we soak up their emotions, worried we might disappoint them. This habit starts in childhood, where we learn to put others first.
Setting boundaries is hard because we end up carrying their emotional load. But if we step back and understand it’s their problem to solve, we won’t feel as weighed down by it.
Think about this: you’re learning to stand by your beliefs and decide how you want to deal with others. Look at how empaths and narcissists interact. Empaths are very sensitive to others’ feelings and often attract narcissists, who like to be in control.
The narcissist challenges the empath’s boundaries. But if the empath had strong boundaries from the start, they might have seen the warning signs and avoided the situation. What seems good at first can turn out to be a problem later on.
Here are three important things about setting energetic boundaries.
It’s about feeling safe in your own world and body, with strong beliefs about yourself and others. When you’re sure of yourself, you might not need external boundaries.
They’re only necessary when you’re feeling unsure about your own reality.
You’ve probably seen how some people get treated differently in conversations, like they’re in a whole different vibe where bad stuff doesn’t faze them. That’s because they give off a confident, respectful vibe.
People who take on others’ feelings often soak up their energy, while some just want validation to feel good inside. But needing approval can make setting boundaries tough.
Energetic boundaries mean realizing your inner child’s needs can be met within. Instead of seeking validation from others, know your inner child seeks connection and love.
Constantly seeking external validation creates an endless cycle.
Even if everyone approves of you, it won’t be fulfilling. Eventually, you’d tire of it, realizing dependence on external validation makes you a perpetual victim.
Many of us seek validation from authority figures because we didn’t get it growing up.
It’s important to shift that authority back to our own inner child. Healing your inner child by accepting and embracing that part of yourself helps stop the cycle of seeking validation from outside sources.
It’s like being stuck in childhood until you grow into your own person, as Carl Jung described it. This means you stop relying on your parents to define who you are and start appreciating what makes you different.
You begin to understand the difference between yourself and others. People who struggle with setting clear boundaries often find this concept hard to understand.
Understanding self versus others means feeling the energy within yourself and knowing the difference between you and everyone else. Imagine your body’s boundaries, your energy field, to get it.
Think about the boundaries between you and important people in your life, like parents or exes.
If you’re still connected to someone emotionally, recognize the gap between you and them. And remember, if they’re bothered by it, it’s their problem, not yours. It’s all about the vibes you give off.
Recently, I’ve come across a powerful idea from Alfred Adlerian psychology called “task separation.” Adler, a key figure in psychology like Jung and Freud, introduced this concept.
It basically means your responsibility is to take care of your inner child, define who you are, shape your reality, and decide your beliefs and self-value. Meanwhile, it’s others’ responsibility to do the same for themselves.
Relationship issues often happen when roles get mixed up, and you start doing things that aren’t your job. For example, if you look for approval from someone else, you’re basically asking them to take care of your needs.
Likewise, if someone gets upset when you set a boundary, they’re putting their problem on you to fix. But that’s their job. Task separation means understanding the difference between you and others, feeling confident in yourself.
This lets you tell apart what’s your responsibility and what’s theirs, without making them deal with your inner child’s needs. It’s about figuring out your own viewpoint and reality.
In the end, being confident in who you are makes a big difference.
I’ve just had this eye-opening moment where I’ve really felt it. I’m starting to grasp the idea of quantum reality and how we shape the reality we want.
It’s all about having a certain vibe, sticking to your vision, and being totally sure of yourself and how you want to interact with others.
Think about it: sometimes you feel really sure of yourself, confident in how you deal with others. Other times, you might doubt yourself, wondering if you’re doing things right.
This uncertainty affects how things play out. But instead of getting caught up in that, imagine a kind of energy coming from you, shaping how you interact with others and how they respond to you.
It’s like setting the vibe for the situation, keeping you grounded in who you are, no matter what.
Maybe I’ll write an article about this someday. It’s about confidence and how it affects others’ perceptions of you. One thing I picked up that really boosted my success on YouTube is a simple technique.
It’s about believing, feeling, and acting as if you’re already the person you want to be, and just sticking with that mindset.
It’s about envisioning yourself already reaching your goals, without worrying about the details or imposing restrictions. Just hold onto that vision and let it sink in through meditation.
To get what you want, you need to tune in to its vibe, feel grateful for it, and let go without stressing.
Facing the unknown can be scary. Like, setting boundaries might feel weird. What’ll happen if I do? But from my experience, setting limits usually leads to respect and good stuff, even if you’re worried about how others might react.
Your vibes shape your world.
If you’re always fretting about others, it shows you’re not confident in your own life. Picture your ideal interactions happening right now.
Understanding the difference between your personal energy and others’ is key.
Try this: in social situations, focus on feeling comfortable in your own skin and keeping that boundary.
You’ll see how your confidence attracts others without needing their approval.
Here’s another thing to remember: it’s not my job. You might recall a song by Mac Dre where he says, “That’s not my job. That’s not my job.”
Your task isn’t to control how others feel, and it’s not their job to control yours either. Your feelings shouldn’t rely on others’ approval.
So, what should you focus on? It’s about understanding how you feel about yourself, feeling confident within yourself, and deciding how you want to engage with others. This is what really shapes your energy and sets boundaries.
Think of energetic boundaries like an invisible shield of energy around you.
You don’t need to picture yourself walking around in a protective bubble. Sure, it’s a cool image, but the real deal is feeling confident in your own world. It’s about trusting yourself and how you deal with others. Picture a line between you and them, and keep that space intact. Don’t let others’ emotions or vibes get under your skin. Instead, focus on being who you want to be and be thankful for having that in your life already.
Forget about how; just concentrate on what you want and embrace its energy. That’s where the real change occurs.
Now, think about this: When you set boundaries, do you feel their disappointment?
Here’s my question: Should you take into account the disappointment you might face from others when setting boundaries?
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