Going through narcissistic abuse can really disrupt who you are, changing you in ways that might seem strange or confusing. It leaves behind a bunch of reactions that can be hard to understand, both for you and for others.

After leaving the narcissist, you feel constantly on edge, always expecting something bad to happen. It’s difficult to trust others, and you find yourself apologizing a lot, even when you haven’t done anything wrong. 

It might make you feel like you’re beyond repair, but what if I told you otherwise? These reactions are natural responses, triggered by what you went through, and they need your attention to heal.

Let’s explore this further in today’s article. I’m Ryan, a writer and expert in recovering from narcissistic abuse.

In this piece, we’ll look at five unusual signs often seen in survivors of narcissistic abuse.

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I. Understanding the Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Decision-Making

Indecisiveness, It’s hard to make even small decisions. For example, choosing what to eat from just two options feels overwhelming. You’re always worrying and thinking too much. 

You might even wonder, “What if I choose wrong? Will I get in trouble?” This constant self-doubt comes from the intense manipulation you endured during narcissistic abuse. 

The narcissist made you think you couldn’t make choices, taking away your freedom. 

Also, the trauma survivor’s brain is always on high alert. The part that helps with decision-making, the prefrontal cortex, is almost shut down, while survival instincts are in overdrive. 

It’s like your brain is flooded with information, always looking for danger. 

But this constant vigilance makes it hard to think clearly and make good choices. Remember, your indecision doesn’t mean you’re not smart, it’s just your way of staying safe. 

But there’s hope. Learning to calm your mind and take things one step at a time can help you feel more in control. As you work on healing, you’ll see your brain starting to function better, and you’ll be able to make progress toward feeling good again.

II. Understanding the Comfort of Isolation for Narcissistic Abuse Survivors

Often seen and widely known, isolating yourself. Sadly, many people who’ve been in long-term relationships with narcissists or had narcissistic parents choose to avoid socializing. 

But why? Why put themselves at risk of being hurt again? They prefer being alone because it feels safer, even though it limits them. 

It’s a way of protecting themselves from getting hurt again. 

It’s not being weak, it’s just how they’re coping with past pain. If it helps them feel better, then it’s okay.

III. Understanding the Impact of Narcissistic Abuse on Over-Apologizing

Saying sorry too much, people who’ve been through narcissistic abuse often apologize too often, even for things they can’t control. Like, if it’s raining, they might say sorry for the bad weather, even though it’s not their fault. 

The narcissist made them feel guilty for everything, even stuff that wasn’t their fault. 

This guilt can weigh them down and make them feel responsible for everything, even when it’s not true. 

They might even feel guilty if the narcissist doesn’t get a ticket, like it’s somehow their fault. Taking blame for everything, even when it’s not their fault, can make them feel really bad about themselves. 

But it’s important to know that this behavior is a way of coping with trauma, called “fawning.” 

It’s a way of trying to keep the narcissist happy and stay safe. You’re not weak, you’re just trying to get through a tough situation. Healing means letting go of this guilt and understanding that it’s not your fault.

IV. Understanding the Hyper-Awareness Resulting from Narcissistic Trauma

Always on high alert, expecting bad things. Your brain is always thinking about the worst-case scenarios, but it doesn’t mean you’re negative. 

People might ask, “Why are you so negative? Can’t you be positive?” 

But it’s not about thinking differently, it’s a response to trauma. Living with a narcissist is like being under constant attack. 

Your brain learned to expect bad things to happen to stay safe. So, you can’t just start thinking positively all of a sudden. Your brain can’t switch off its survival mode that easily.

V. Acknowledging Strength Developed During Narcissistic Challenges

Your resilience, your refusal to give up. It’s not a weakness, it’s a strength you found in hard times. You had no one to lean on, but you kept moving forward. 

Even when things looked bleak, you found a tiny bit of hope. 

Despite facing lots of problems and enduring lots of pain, you made it through. 

The narcissist tried to crush you, but you didn’t let them. That’s why you’re strong. You keep going, even when others lose hope. When everyone else thinks there’s no way out, you say, “I can and I will.”

Wrap it up

You should value that trait, acknowledge it in yourself, and use your strengths to keep going as you heal from such a tough time.

 That’s the last thing I want to say before I finish. 

Which quality do you connect with the most? Which one is the hardest for you? 

Share your thoughts below, keep moving forward on your healing journey.

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