Have you noticed that when you let go and stop stressing about something, it often ends up happening? On the other hand, when you’re obsessed with it, whether it’s an event, a person, or anything else, it tends to not happen as easily?

In this article, I’m eager to share an important insight: when you let go of what you want, it’s more likely to happen. Exploring this idea helps us understand how vibrational resonance works. 

When you connect with the reality you want, it feels like a natural part of who you are.

If you idolize something, you’ll face resistance. Similarly, thinking of something as lesser brings negative vibes. 

To make your dream life real, it has to feel like a normal part of who you are, not something extraordinary.

In my group, I’ve noticed that lots of people really want to find love. They try hard to make it happen, but strangely, their efforts often make things more complicated, making it even harder to find love.

Letting Go and Embracing Your Natural Identity, The Key to Finding Love.

I often tell them to do the opposite: stop looking for love and just let it happen. Surprisingly, many people find love when they’re not actively searching for it. 

You rarely hear stories like, “I searched everywhere for love, but it found me when I least expected it.”

It often happens when you’re not looking because when you’re not searching, you’re not pushing it away. 

It’s like when you’re desperately looking for your keys, searching everywhere in your house, car, and outside, only to find out they were in your pocket all along. But because you thought they were somewhere else, you kept looking elsewhere.

This concept applies to both love and feeling positive in life overall. 

You just need to be yourself without overthinking it. Personally, when I started writing articles regularly on the websites and Medium.com at the end of 2019 and earlier 2024, it felt natural, not like a big deal.

It felt easy for me, and that’s when I started seeing things change in my life. Now, the important thing is why you’re doing it. Are you trying to escape your problems? Or are you avoiding certain feelings?

Understanding Your Love and Self-Worth: Accepting Inner Feelings for Outer Balance

Let’s delve deeper into the main point of this article. If you constantly desire love, asking yourself, “Where is it?”, you may be avoiding certain emotions. 

But the important thing is to accept those feelings, like loneliness or the desire for love, because it helps you appreciate yourself more and makes your life better.

When you enjoy life and embrace your feelings, something interesting happens. You become more interesting and attractive. Because, you see, people can only relate to you as much as you relate to yourself. 

And the way you treat yourself affects the type of people you attract.

It’s interesting how when you focus on loving yourself and setting boundaries, you start meeting your own needs. Instead of depending on others for happiness, you take control of your own joy. 

This leads to having higher expectations for the people you let into your life. If they don’t treat you well, maybe they’re not the right fit anymore. 

Your standards rise as you prioritize taking care of yourself.

It’s crucial to understand the emotions you might be dodging by searching for love outside yourself, when the real journey is within. 

For instance, looking at social media and comparing yourself to others can make you feel bad about yourself.

You might feel like something’s wrong with you because everyone else looks perfect in their edited photos. 

But remember, those images often don’t show the whole truth, so feeling not good enough is a common response.

What’s crucial to understand is the feeling of not being good enough, shame, and the idea that you’re flawed. The more you accept and deal with these feelings, the more you can get better. 

Having the courage to face these emotions head-on boosts your confidence. As you fully feel these emotions, they begin to fade away.

Understanding Your Emotional Growth

Lots of people misunderstand the law of attraction, believing that feeling down will bring more negativity into their lives. 

I used to think like this, influenced by “The Secret” which says positive thinking leads to good things. But sometimes, I’d rebel and entertain negative thoughts, curious if they’d instantly cause something bad. 

Turns out, it was just a rebellious phase, not a real law.

Here’s the thing: when I allowed myself to feel those emotions, they began to disappear. Some people believe they can just think positive thoughts and ignore their inner feelings. 

But those feelings stay hidden inside. They’ll still attract people and situations reflecting those emotions because they haven’t been dealt with.

It wants to be set free. So, you need to recognize it, release it, and let it heal. This will help you raise your energy to align with your desires. 

But don’t ignore your emotions. For example, if someone spends too much time on social media and feels bad about themselves, it might be because they’re avoiding their feelings. 

This could be because they’re used to feeling unworthy, which feels familiar and comfortable.

Consider this: Why do I spend so much time on social media? Why do I always compare myself to others? Maybe it’s because I’m used to that feeling, even though it’s not good for me. 

The important thing is to notice this feeling and let it go. 

Can I be brave enough to embrace feeling worthy, even if it’s scary? 

That’s worth thinking about.

This is when things really start to change because you get what you think you deserve in life, not what you idealize. 

I learned about a method called “decreasing importance” from a book called Reality Transurfing. It means that when we make something too important, we actually make it less likely to happen.

Letting Go: How It Attracts Love and Abundance

That’s why it’s important to let go. But how do you do it? Letting go can be hard, especially when we’re attached to something. We hold onto things because we think they make us happy. 

We’re scared that if we let go, it will hurt. You know what’s interesting? 

When you stop desperately looking for love, that’s when it comes to you. 

And when you stop worrying about making tons of money and just be yourself, expressing who you are, abundance naturally comes. 

I remember when I used to sing on the live music, my happiest days weren’t when I was asking for favors. Those were the times when the audience didn’t seem engaged. It felt like I faced challenges wherever I performed.

Similarly, I remember those days performing live music when I felt truly confident. Whether the audience responded enthusiastically or not didn’t bother me. 

After delivering a good set, I’d continue performing for the next audience without fretting over their reactions. 

Interestingly, with this relaxed approach, the audience often became more engaged, which was quite surprising.

When you’re not overly focused on something, you’re more appealing. Being less attached lets you go with the flow instead of resisting. It also means you’re less likely to encounter obstacles. 

So letting go also means realizing that expecting one thing, like a relationship, to make you happy, is just hoping for too much.

I’m not saying relationships are the only thing that brings happiness. 

They’re important, but not everything. When we look back on our lives, we won’t regret not earning more money. We’ll regret not spending more time with the people we care about.

Understanding Emotional Attachments: Embracing Uncomfortable Feelings to Heal Inside

When we think others should behave a certain way or make us happy, we put pressure on them. We expect them to fulfill our happiness. 

As relationships continue, they face challenges that offer chances for self-love and deeper love for others. Do you see the difference?

Changing your energy starts with understanding that it’s influenced by distorted beliefs. This warped view leads to relying too much on others’ opinions and what they can do for you. 

If you expect others to fulfill your needs because your parents couldn’t, it puts strain on relationships.

I’m saying you should focus on your own energy. I’ll be leading breathwork sessions soon, which have really helped me. 

It’s just about breathing in a certain way. Your emotions will come up, but don’t stress about them. Just feel them, release them, and feel free.

Think about it: What feelings are you avoiding by holding onto attachments? Many times, we stick to familiar stories and blame others. 

For example, if you blamed your parents for unfairness in your childhood, you might blame others too, like saying “this person isn’t choosing me.” 

But these stories often come from childhood experiences and run automatically.

If someone doesn’t pick you, you might think they’re not good enough. This story feels safe because it stops you from feeling ashamed or inadequate. But to feel better, you need to face your uncomfortable feelings. When you deal with them, you start feeling better inside.

Wrap it up

You know, a lot of what we believe isn’t always true. Like thinking we absolutely need to find our keys, or that a relationship will solve all our problems, or that money can buy happiness. 

But these are just ideas we’ve picked up. Instead, focus on feeling the emotions of what you want right now. 

Look at the good relationships you already have, whether it’s with family, friends, or even pets. This positivity builds good vibes inside you.

When you’re feeling great, you tend to attract more good stuff. Ever notice how when you’re happy, good things seem to come your way? 

But when you’re feeling down, you might keep facing the same old problems. It’s all about vibes. 

By letting go and having fun, you open the door to awesome opportunities.

Start by dealing with your feelings. As you let in more positive energy, everything changes. Take a moment to think about who you really are. Your relationship with yourself reflects in how you relate to others.

For real change, work on healing your relationships, especially with your family. The way you connect with them shapes how you deal with the world. By fixing these connections, you unlock your true self.

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