Every narcissist quickly and easily feels rage. Why? Because it makes them feel like they’re in control and powerful over others. It helps them avoid looking at themselves and feeling vulnerable.

Let’s discuss why narcissists experience rage. When they lash out, whether by shouting or being passive-aggressive, what’s really happening? I’m Ryan, a narcissism expert and writer who assists individuals in recovering from narcissistic abuse.

Today, we’ll delve into the truth about why narcissists become so enraged.

First off, it’s key to understand that narcissists aren’t very secure and don’t have strong morals. 

They feel ashamed but don’t want to deal with it, so they blame others instead. 

Even though they might act tough, deep down, they struggle to handle their emotions. Stay with us as we figure out why narcissists get mad and what it says about them.

Understanding Narcissistic Rage and Betrayal and How It Works

In their world, they only feel rage, trying to control what seems like chaos. They shout and insult to hide their lack of control. But under the surface, they’re hollow. 

Rage is their shield, protecting them from facing their own identity struggles. 

Every criticism hurts because deep down, they feel lost and insecure. They’re not true to themselves, just holding on to a fake sense of power.

Underneath their rage, there’s deep shame. They lash out to hide this weakness, trying to destroy anything that makes them feel bad. 

Criticism fuels their anger, making them want to tear down anyone who makes them feel small. In these moments, they face their true selves, broken and buried under shame. 

Their anger isn’t just frustration, it’s a wild, animalistic rage, like a hunting wolf. 

And after, their eyes lose their spark, filled with darkness. When they’re really angry, it’s like they turn into a different person, almost like a scary demon. 

They stop respecting you and start treating you like an enemy, seeking revenge by doing hurtful things. This kind of betrayal, seen in relationships with narcissistic people, is one of the worst kinds.

Understanding Narcissistic Rage and Emotional Manipulation

Their anger is strange because once it’s over, they don’t feel sorry at all. If you or I got mad and said something mean to someone we care about, we’d probably feel bad later and try to fix it. 

But narcissists are different. They’ll hurt you and then act like nothing happened. 

They want you to act like everything’s okay too. 

For example, after a big fight, they’ll act normal the next day while you’re still upset. If you try to talk about it, they’ll make you feel like it’s your fault. 

They’ll think they’re right and leave you confused. 

You might feel like you have to go along with it, especially if there are kids involved. They’ll make you seem like the one who’s crazy for not agreeing. 

But they never show their bad side to others.

Covert narcissists don’t show their anger as openly as malignant ones do. They’re sly and quiet about it. 

They might ignore you for months, which can hurt even more than being physically hurt, in my view. 

It’s like feeling mentally trapped, enduring punishment that goes on and on.

It feels like a part of you dies and you feel worthless. They won’t talk to you, and they might even stonewall you. 

It’s like you’re invisible, like a piece of furniture or a ghost. This made my friend feel awful, especially with their dad, who’s a covert narcissist. 

When he ignored them, it was like they didn’t exist, like they were someone else’s child. He wouldn’t even look at them, passing things through their sibling instead. 

It was really hard for my friend, especially since they already had issues with feeling scared and abandoned. Their dad knew how to upset them and make them say sorry, making them want to please him even more. 

Have you or someone you know ever felt like this? If so, share your thoughts below.

Understanding Narcissistic Rage and Its Consequences

On the other hand, my friend’s dad, who’s always angry, would break things and hit them. He’d make scary faces and yell until my friend cried. It was really scary for them. 

Unfortunately, they had to deal with both types of anger, which was terrible.

Their anger is just a way to seem tough, but deep down, they’re weak. 

When they lose control, they fall apart. Instead of being scared of their anger, my friend learned to focus on who they really are. 

That’s how they broke free from their hold.

I hope you found this article interesting and useful.

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